What if I had the courage to say what I was really thinking?
Studies generally indicate that parent involvement in a child’s schoolwork is a factor which usually helps the child to be successful. Sometimes, though, parents can be a bit too involved. I have sometimes wondered if certain children had any input into their homework at all when their parents “help” them. Like when you get a brilliant project laminated in full color completed on the computer and when you take your students to the computer lab, the student has forgotten how to log onto the computer at all. Just like a soap opera when a main character has had an accident and suffered from “amnesia…” Of course parents should help their children. Parents should not, however, do the homework for them. As a parent, I know that the line between “helping” and “doing the whole thing yourself because it’s too hard to explain it and my kid just doesn’t get it at all” is thin, but we must let our children learn their lessons in life!
Are educators better parents? I know I’ve gone to my daughter’s teachers and been overinvolved because I think I have inside knowledge of the inner workings of schools. I’ve caught myself being the helicopter parent and backed off because I know how annoying those kinds of parents can be. I do feel that teaching helped prepare me for parenting…after all, you can’t hit them at school so you have to learn alternative behavior management techniques. Hello PBIS…LOL!
Maybe the problem with your child is actually YOU. Maybe you aren’t a very good parent. Perhaps you are a poor role model. Here’s a tip: if you yell at your child to stop yelling, hit your child to stop hitting, cuss at your child to stop cussing, etc., then maybe you should learn how to parent. Maybe you might actually discipline your child instead of giving in to his or her bratty, whiny demands. You may possibly be responsible for creating a monster. Maybe it’snot MY fault. Maybe it’s YOUR fault.